There are times when anger makes you collect so much courage and strength that you didn’t even know you had and you find the ability to do things you may have normally never done.
On the other hand there are times the anger surfaces and there are no warnings ...it just explodes!
Something triggers it. You’ve seen something, remembered something, sometimes it's specific people, a specific environment, specific words and sometimes it is for NO Reason at all.
How do you escape the pain, the violation of peace, the guilt of your actions, the shame it creates? Anger is a normal emotion. An emotion we all feel eventually. An emotion that serves a purpose. It can drive us but it can also destroy, especially if it over presents itself. It’s an emotion that we want to be in control of. We don’t want our anger to control us.
Our emotional habits and actions control and direct our lives. So in order to create the life we want we must be able to use our emotions wisely.
Built up anger and suppressed anger will eventually come out. The saying “If you squeeze a lemon you will get lemon juice” has so much value to it. Whatever is inside will come out and that is the truth about us too. If you have anger inside it is difficult to give or share love, patience and compassion. As much as you try what is inside will eventually come to the surface.
Anger can be created for many reasons. It can be the meaning we give to a situation. It can be the expectations we have of someone or of a situation. It can be from feeling disappointed, it can be from fear. It can be created because of something you feel you’re lacking: maybe love, maybe connection, understanding, maybe you don’t feel important, maybe he/she aren’t making you feel important. It can be so many different things for each of us and that depends on each individual’s life circumstances and life conditions. So many things can trigger anger!
The magic of awareness is that it gives you answers to your anger. It gives you the why, the who and the when. It gives you the understanding. You understand yourself and then you can become aware of others and their actions and you understand them too.
Understanding doesn’t make anger disappear but it does take away its power. Understanding gives you the choice to connect to a healthier emotion with a specific situation. Your focus may be redirected onto “what am I learning from this” or “what am I giving” instead of “what am I losing”.
Anger does destroy relationships and it can destroy our health mentally and physically. So it is our responsibility to find healthier ways to express ourselves and befriend our emotions and thoughts.
Once we have done that without judging ourselves and others we begin to let go. The anger dissipates and eventually it subsides.
As long as anger does not become your Emotional Home and it just occasionally visits, that is not only acceptable but it is a healthier way of living!
If you suffer with anger outbursts and you think you have tried everything, believe me when I say “There is hope and a solution to this problem!” and I say it with confidence since I have been there.
Don’t live in rage and pain. Life is meant to be lived in peace, love and harmony. So if you feel you are far from that lets get started straight away.
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